Let's face it. Breaking up is not an easy thing to do and it can be very comfortable to stay complacent and not rock the boat by asking yourself tough questions. But it can be even MORE stressful to stay in a relationship that has not only lost it's spark, but also lost it's warmth.

Here are some signs that you might be wasting time in your current relationship:

Lack of communication

Don't confuse comfortable silence with non communication, when you're in a splintering relationship there is a lack of communication that can lead to confusion, hurt feelings, and disinterest.

Lack of common interest

Maybe in the early days of your relationship you two did everything together and now...not so much - this is a red flag! While it's natural for couples to grow in different ways it is unusual to give up all or most shared interests.

Lack of care in personal appearance

When your relationship is new, you do everything you can to always look perfect for each other. Over time, as you get more comfortable with your partner, that level of care can start to wane and if you find that it seems like your partner's hygiene and grooming habits have sharply declined, take that as a warning sign that they're no longer as interested in impressing you.

Your plans don't line up

Maybe you and your partner do have a conversation about where you'd like life to take you, does it feel like you're included in those plans? If either of you speak about the future but don't have the same plans for home buying, children, even pets - it's probably time to cut and run.

You don't meet each other's families

I had a friend who dated a guy for FIVE YEARS and never met anyone in his family. Now, a lot of their problems fell into the categories above but if your partner is unwilling to introduce you to his parents - that is a sign that they aren't in it with you for the long haul.

You don't share the same core values

I know that people like to say 'opposites attract' but the reality is, to ensure and successful long term coupling, it's a good idea to be on the same page when it comes to politics, finances, religion, etc. Now, that's not to say that love cannot happen if you disagree on these things but for your relationship to survive, you have to find common ground.

What are some other warning signs that you're in a dead end relationship? Let me know in the comments below!

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